My 5 (soon to be 6) year old daughter has a number of special needs. One of these is something called Cortical Visual Impairment (CVI). It basically means her eyes themselves are fine, but her brain doesn't process what she sees correctly (a stroke obliterated her occipital lobe, which processes visual input).
I know most people have no clue what it is. But I get tired of explaining it sometimes. I get tired of trying to explain why one moment she may seem totally blind, and another moment you might not even notice she has any visul impairment at all. But I do it anyway, because I know most people just don't know, and I try to do it politely and cheerfully.
But what I really hate are people who see her struggling with her vision and make comments to me about how I should get her glasses.
Don't you think that if glasses would do her a damn bit of good that I would get them for her? Do you think there is ANYTHING I would not do for her? What's the insinuation here? That I'm neglectful, and either haven't noticed she's visually impaired, or just don't care enough to get it taken care of? Or that I'm just stupid? What? Even worse is when I charitably explain why glasses will do her zero good and people just huff and look at me like I have no clue what I'm talking about. She's my daughter. She's been my daughter for nearly 6 year. I religiously take her to all of her appointments with specialists, including the pediatric opthamologist who sees her every 6 months. I know what I'm doing, and I really wish strangers would give parents of kids with disabilities the benefit of the doubt. We know our children. We know how to care for them. No matter how well-intentioned someone's unsolicited advice might be, it's just annoying and frustrating.